You’ve spent a lot of time waiting to be consistently loved. I’m willing to bet you have a lot of experience with these feelings. Then please understand this: all humans feel pain when they feel unseen, unheard, ignored, and abandoned in a relationship. Made you feel like it was not safe to be yourself and express your feelings….Never quite let you know where you stand and/or….Alternated between showering you with love and then ignoring you.Provided you with inconsistent love, attention, and support.If you were in a relationship with someone who: If you feel like you somehow exist a little bit less in this world or that the holidays are void of joy because you are hearing radio silence, please know that you are not crazy. If you are grasping, desperate, and obsessed for some sign that he misses you… that’s normal too. Wondering “does my ex miss me?” is normal. Should you feel shame for even asking these questions? Does the constant, banging refrain of “Does he miss me during no contact?” mean that you are not healing?ĭoes the very fact that you are asking these questions mean that you miss your ex so terribly that you are actually destined to be together? You already know this, but the purpose of no contact is to remove yourself from a toxic relationship and avoid being triggered by someone who brought you pain, so that you can heal and move forward. Your ex misses you in the very same way he was in a relationship with you…Īs with many things, to understand the answer to the questions “does he think about me?” or “does he miss me during no contact?” requires that we unpack those questions first. After so many years of searching for answers and being dismissed as delusional, Neville is grateful that someone finally believed his story.Let’s get right to the point, because if you were in a relationship with a toxic, emotionally unavailable, or narcissistic person and despite it all, continue to miss this person during a No Contact period, the question “ does he miss me during No Contact?” probably lives in your bones. He says he bears no ill-will towards the islanders and feels he has forgiven those he believes wronged him. Today, Neville continues to experience bouts of severe mental illness and is regularly admitted to hospital. Outside court Neville would claim that the money “wouldn’t pay for a chicken coop on Tory Island”, though he did feel that justice had been served. The judge awarded Neville £54,000 in damages. However, the judge decided that the defendant did have the most to gain from the disappearance of the house and that his digger, whether driven by him or not, was most likely involved in the house’s destruction.
Justice at Last?Īfter a dramatic court case, a judge would eventually find that there was no proof that either the defendant or anyone acting for him had set fire to the house. Neville and his solicitor commenced civil legal proceedings, alleging that an islander had decided that Neville’s house was blocking his view of the sea. Anton also put Neville in touch with a solicitor who was willing to take on his case. He had picked up some new information from the islanders and was able to tell Neville a little more about had happened to his house. Anton was a regular visitor to Tory and a fluent Irish speaker. Nine years after discovering his house had vanished, Neville was once again on the ferry to Tory Island when he met a journalist called Anton McCabe. There were rumours that the house had been destroyed in an arson attack, but Neville could not find any proof. A builder who worked on the island alleged he had been offered money to demolish the house, but had refused. The reason Neville had returned to the island in the first place was a letter from the local council warning this house had been damaged by a storm, but an engineer’s report found that the house was most likely brought down by mechanical means. Neville Presho leaving court in 2009 (photographer: Trevor McBride)